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Post by Animayhem on Jul 25, 2023 21:54:14 GMT -5
*Hugs* Positive vibes and do take care of yourself.
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Post by Masterbard Alyster Darkharp on Jul 26, 2023 7:46:10 GMT -5
Jen,
None of us can relate as much as we would like to; even having dealt with my own aging parents the experience is different for all. As a friend to you of many years I wish I had more to say to make you feel better, but all I have are these words: you will get through this and return to some semblance of normalcy. When they happens I’ll still be here and I’ll wager most of your other friends on FRC will be as well. We miss you and we await your return with the patience that the situation deserves. I am sorry you feel so frustrated but AT LEAST you are doing a healthy thing by venting the frustrations to friends and not keeping them bottled up. I’m here as are many others if you need to talk about anything.
The most relatable part of your story unfortunately is that as we age, us lovably stubborn men become cumbersome to our loved ones because we are independent idiots instead of independently capable.
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Post by PhatDorf on Jul 26, 2023 8:39:49 GMT -5
I'm really sorry to hear all this, and frustrated to hear of the issues on the care-side. It's always such a hard struggle with our loved ones when they're sick, and it gets that much harder when dealing with the struggles and flaws with healthcare. How I wish there was an easy fix for these issues in life. All I can do is send my love, hope, and wish for the best possible outcomes, for you and your family. I know there are those in the community here is always ready to hear you, and serve as some support for you, when the time is right. We'll be here, when life settles back down.
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Post by sightblinder on Jul 26, 2023 8:50:53 GMT -5
So sorry you are having to go through all this. As others have said just hang in there and be glad that you can be there as much as you are for your dad and family. I wish you the best while you are going through these trying times, and heck, even when you aren't! Take care and we'll see you in game when you get the time.
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Post by ShadowCatJen on Aug 4, 2023 17:59:01 GMT -5
Thanks for the words of support, guys. I will admit to using this as a way to rant a bit and vent some of the frustration. Not too many other online places I frequent would be as receptive or even deign things with a reply. So it is appreciated.
This being said, I'm going to be very scarce for the next month.
There's been some writing on the walls with our new landlords and we have a feeling they're going to raise the rent on us in September and lay on more rules that we never had before. In order to avoid that or any other sketchy landlord shenanigans they're planning on pulling, we're aiming to be out by the 31st.
This will be happening the same exact time that we'll be visiting a few long term care facilities to decide where dad will eventually end up and then get him there. I finally got his current facility to give me something of a baseline outside of the rehab for his hip. We are looking at full skilled nursing center where he can be taken care of and monitored 24/7. Basically ... exactly the kind of place he's in now, but mom wants him at a facility closer to home (I don't blame her). So there are a few places we can try.
I might start poking my nose back in before the end of the month is up, but for the next three weeks gaming and any other hobbies are going to have to take a major back seat.
You might see me chirp in on Discord a time or two, but that's about it.
For my two current mains ....
Mynian is still recluse. RP wise we can say she bought enough food and firewood to last a month and has been cloistered at the Three Chimneys with no contact.
Wrenna's gone scurrying off again into the Bramblewood. Some sharp eyed woodsmen may say they've seen a small mass of furs and leathers hunting a bear ... or was the bear hunting the mass? Hard to tell.
See you all on the other side. Game on!
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Post by Animayhem on Aug 5, 2023 19:18:54 GMT -5
As always, make sure you take care of you.
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Post by ShadowCatJen on Aug 29, 2023 15:40:41 GMT -5
Out of game and contact for 2 weeks.
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Post by Animayhem on Aug 29, 2023 15:48:38 GMT -5
Out of game and contact for 2 weeks. *Hugs* Positive vibes
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Post by ShadowCatJen on Sept 11, 2023 10:41:32 GMT -5
Still out, likely until after the end of September.
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Post by ShadowCatJen on Sept 30, 2023 18:32:19 GMT -5
Update.
September 13th my father passed away. His funeral was on the 22nd.
As of the 27th we finally fully moved in with mom.
I have a lot I need to get settled. Most of my brain power is being put toward getting everything solidified.
Any free/play time I get I've been playing BG3. Right now I don't have the mental or emotional capacity to deal with what I need to on FRC.
I'm a little bit walking wounded right now. Dad dies, pet bird dies, left a home I've had for decades. I'm bent, spent, and really just want to nap for all of October, but I can't. Too many time sensitive things I need to settle. Need to get unpacked and try to squeeze in our lives into a place that isn't completely our own (<-- this is no complaint, this is just how it is). Need to make sure no one tries to take advantage of mom and that they don't take the house out from under her/us.
Told my boss the other day that I really just felt punch drunk. Stepping forward into the ring every day with what I got to do, but I've taken a few hits to the head and I'm wobbling on my feet.
I really don't know when I'll be able to hop into FRC with a light enough heart to take care of the things I need to for my character. Don't feel right hopping on with an alt until I can settle things with my main.
I'll check in with you all here and there. I won't be far. I just need time to mend.
Game on
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Post by Mooseocalypse on Sept 30, 2023 20:24:58 GMT -5
I am truly sorry for your loss SCJ, your own well being and rl comes first. FRC and the rest of us will still be here when you are ready
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Post by Spirit of a Phoenix on Sept 30, 2023 20:41:58 GMT -5
Hey SCJ,
I'm so sorry to hear about your losses. I could not imagine going through even a fraction of it, especially all compounded. I hope you take the time to heal, do not stress over FRC too much, and focus on yourself and your needs. We will be here whenever you feel ready.
We will be thinking of you. I wish you and your family the best.
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Post by lucesi on Oct 1, 2023 2:33:44 GMT -5
Sorry to hear this, I know you and your family will be grieving and in pain but hope you can get through it in time. FRC will always be here whenever you need it.
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Post by Animayhem on Oct 1, 2023 12:29:33 GMT -5
My condolences. Be thankful you were in each others lives. Cherish the memories he will always be with you as he is a part of you. Focus on family but do not forget to take care of you.
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Post by ShadowCatJen on Oct 25, 2023 18:26:04 GMT -5
Oh bureaucracy, bureaucracy. What free time would we have without you?
I don't mind dealing with fantasy bureaucracy and politics cause there are fantasy ways to cut through the red tape, but the RL kind is turning my hair prematurely grey. That's the stage I'm at right now. Frustrating but it must be done. (Note, never bank with Bank of America if you want your beneficiaries to keep their sanity. They've been the worst to deal with.)
I've finally been able to put my mind to my characters and have something percolate. I was honestly worried there for a while because I wasn't able to come up with anything before this week. Not for my characters -or- my writing (which was getting really unsettling). So I'm relieved that my creative juices didn't dry up after all this.
Still have this horrible sense of waiting for yet another shoe to drop and I doubt it will go away until I can go for longer than two weeks without some major thing happening. Crossing my fingers on that for now.
Meanwhile, I'm considering the direction to take my PCs and have reasonable excuses for their lack of appearance. Wrenna wasn't/isn't that difficult to figure and she'll come back out of the woods when I'm ready for her. Mynian I'm taking a lot of things into consideration and I'm starting to formulate what changes in behavior she'll start to exhibit. I have a few more sessions I have to schedule for her before I can get back to really playing her again. For right now the bureaucratic wheels of society have me in it's grasp ... the bastards.
I'm also considering getting a new laptop as it's about that time to upgrade. Keep the old one just for finances and word processing. Use the shiny new one for gaming goodness. We'll see.
Game on!
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Post by Animayhem on Oct 25, 2023 19:33:32 GMT -5
One day at a time and remember self care.
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Post by ShadowCatJen on Mar 19, 2024 13:13:28 GMT -5
I'll be a little scarce the coming week. Dealing with a few health insurance issues and keep getting a run around on getting it fixed. I'm almost to the point of needing to pursue legal action, which I'd really not rather do. Yeah, I know there are enough attorneys willing to go up against health insurance companies pro bono, but even the thought of doing it just drains me.
That and I'm dealing with a somewhat stubborn parent who's giving me the "I only drive every once in a while to the grocery store and I don't need a valid license for that" line. She's also refusing to let my spouse drive her around (which they're more than willing to do) and won't give me a clear reason why. It's personal freedom, I get it, but if she can't pass the driving test to get her license renewed then she shouldn't be driving. She puts a lot at risk even if it's "just" a fender bender.
I'll yap at some of you on discord through the week and if you really really need to have your PC speak to Mynian, let me know and I'll try to elbow some room in for it, but otherwise ... Mynian is resting.
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Post by Animayhem on Mar 19, 2024 14:59:53 GMT -5
I'll be a little scarce the coming week. Dealing with a few health insurance issues and keep getting a run around on getting it fixed. I'm almost to the point of needing to pursue legal action, which I'd really not rather do. Yeah, I know there are enough attorneys willing to go up against health insurance companies pro bono, but even the thought of doing it just drains me. That and I'm dealing with a somewhat stubborn parent who's giving me the "I only drive every once in a while to the grocery store and I don't need a valid license for that" line. She's also refusing to let my spouse drive her around (which they're more than willing to do) and won't give me a clear reason why. It's personal freedom, I get it, but if she can't pass the driving test to get her license renewed then she shouldn't be driving. She puts a lot at risk even if it's "just" a fender bender. I'll yap at some of you on discord through the week and if you really really need to have your PC speak to Mynian, let me know and I'll try to elbow some room in for it, but otherwise ... Mynian is resting. *hugs* Yourself and health first.
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Post by darthweasel on Mar 19, 2024 17:52:18 GMT -5
I'll be a little scarce the coming week. Dealing with a few health insurance issues and keep getting a run around on getting it fixed. I'm almost to the point of needing to pursue legal action, which I'd really not rather do. Yeah, I know there are enough attorneys willing to go up against health insurance companies pro bono, but even the thought of doing it just drains me. That and I'm dealing with a somewhat stubborn parent who's giving me the "I only drive every once in a while to the grocery store and I don't need a valid license for that" line. She's also refusing to let my spouse drive her around (which they're more than willing to do) and won't give me a clear reason why. It's personal freedom, I get it, but if she can't pass the driving test to get her license renewed then she shouldn't be driving. She puts a lot at risk even if it's "just" a fender bender. I'll yap at some of you on discord through the week and if you really really need to have your PC speak to Mynian, let me know and I'll try to elbow some room in for it, but otherwise ... Mynian is resting. I just went through the insurance issue. 2 appeals rejected. However they changed their tune when I stated the next review would be them explaining to a judge why they did not want to cover it. 2 weeks later I got the revised bill with the proper coverage.
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Post by ShadowCatJen on Mar 26, 2024 20:21:57 GMT -5
Still out for a bit. This time for less stress causing reasons.
Fixed the bit with the insurance. Still dealing with a stubborn parent insisting on driving when her license has expired (that's going to be ongoing), but I'm relaxing by getting lost in Dragon's Dogma 2 and enjoying it quite a bit.
You'll see me more the coming weekend. Game on!
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Post by Animayhem on Mar 27, 2024 12:57:32 GMT -5
Still out for a bit. This time for less stress causing reasons. Fixed the bit with the insurance. Still dealing with a stubborn parent insisting on driving when her license has expired (that's going to be ongoing), but I'm relaxing by getting lost in Dragon's Dogma 2 and enjoying it quite a bit. You'll see me more the coming weekend. Game on! Take all the time you need.
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