Post by Spirit of a Phoenix on Dec 9, 2016 15:50:16 GMT -5
dont know why you would think i was rude. in all honesty i thought i was intruding on your rp, which is why i made my interraction brief.
the two letters that i wrote were intended to create roleplay, not necessarily for me. i meant to cause IC conflict and bring out some real questions. it was not meant for anything else. it was just for kicks.
you have apparently created a very distorted view of me. and that is what im trying to say here, underneath the issue, that there is trully an OOC hatred of me from a (former?)) DM, and quite some players as well. you yourself told me i was "chasing phantoms" in thinking people were out to get me. dude, you were one all along! its a little disturbing too, i mean...you were basically the only DM giving me the time of day, and i really appreciated that from you. why would i antagonize you? hell, you almost seemed like a friend. but now that your true feelings are known i can see both your faces. so...now its getting clearer. this is an OOC thing agaisnt me. in my current PMs this is a matter of contention. peeps dont agrree that this is OOC, but you just proved that for me. thanks.
I have seen you on the FRC forums through the years, but I cannot recall us ever reacting IC as far as I am aware. Point is I am unfamiliar with you, and so I feel like an unbiased outsider looking into this situation.
I just read through this thread and the impression I receive is that there are some hurt feelings and bad impressions. For me, the sign of a mature and healthy adult is the ability to take responsibility. Fact is, this is the internet. Misunderstandings happen due to the fact we cannot interrupt one another body language and tone as it was intended. I will give you the benefit of the doubt and I will chose to believe that you have good intentions, and honestly you should give your fellow players the benefit of the doubt as well. Perhaps you never intended to rub anyone the wrong way, but the fact is there are a lot of different people chiming in on this thread, from all different standings and groups on this server stating that your rubbed them the wrong way. Some of these players are evening stating that they made the effort to get to know you and interact with you, but you pushed them away. The mature thing to do would be to stop posting and take a step back and try to empathize and understand where everyone is coming from, and assume they mean well. Turn the criticism into something constructive and use it to grow not only as a member of this community, but as a person.
Being cynical and assuming the criticism of others is due to character flaws of theirs and not a result of your own actions is not only childish, but nonconstructive. Be more optimistic, and turn this potentially negative experience into something positive and use it to better yourself.
Fact is, if you cannot get along with the other players in this community, it is going to be difficult for you to be a part of it. We are all here to create characters who have a story to tell. None of your characters will be able to share their story, if you end up earning yourself a negative reputation and as a result chase away your potential audience. The more players you rub the wrong way the more you hurt yourself by creating a barrier between yourself and others.
Sometimes the best thing you can do is apologize despite the situation, make peace, and learn from this situation.
Perhaps it would be best to lock this thread, in my opinion. I doubt there is anything new to state going forward.